There are several things that never change, one of which is how women desire to be pursued, regardless of how enlightened society may try to impose rules on how individuals act or feel.
The fundamental reason why women want to be chased is because it feels natural to them. Women naturally desire to be the hunted prize, just as males have a natural instinct to be the hunters. Because nature always catches up, if someone follows the dictates of modern society and deviates from the natural laws of mating, it not only creates an imbalance that makes it seem off, but it also leads to one or both parties leaving the relationship early.
This has been shown throughout history; tribes now as well as our ancestors obey the natural laws governing mating rituals. While the women make the choice of which men they want to spend their life with, the men figure out how to attract these women. Biologically men produce large quantities of sperm, whereas women can only release one ovary per month. Because of this, she must be picky in order to select the ideal mate. She can't be picky if she's the one pursuing. Because the hunter, not the prize, is the one who chases.
Never Mess with Nature
I am acquainted with several stunning modern-day women who live by the maxim, "If I see something I like, I go and get it." and then later whine about how they are still without love while the men they went after have abandoned them and most definitely ghosted them. Which is technically the same as abandonment.
Yes, initially, guys enjoy the attention of being chased, especially by beautiful women, which makes sense given how rarely being pursued happens to them. It's a humongous compliment and a pleasure. That is, until, the novelty wears off. After that nature seizes its power and the men like clockwork dash away as if they were being chased by hungry angry dogs.
A good male friend of mine frequently laments the lack of attractive women in his life, yet oddly, the same man finds it uncomfortable to be pursued by a woman. He had initially reached out to her, so there was clearly attraction there. However, when she abruptly changed from being the prize to being the hunter, he pulled off the greatest magic trick of them all: the disappearing man!
Chase her even when she's already yours. That's the only way you'll be assured to never lose her." - Unknown author
Chasing is a Test
Women enjoy being chased because it shows how much a man wants them, not just for the pure pleasure of it. Quitters are a way to weed out the weak and those who are simply interested in her for "other" reasons than love and a committed relationship.
Women have been wooed and battled over by men throughout history, and they rightly so have to be very picky about which suitors they choose to court them. However, only one can gain her affection. Usually, the person who is persistent wins. He is the victor. The victor is the one that fights for what he wants and would do everything it takes to get her. A woman genuinely feels more loved and desired the more she knows that this man will stop at nothing to win her over.
A persistent suitor actually stirs something in us women that desires and demands for more of the pursuit, and more of the man. Most women won't confess this shocking revelation because she doesn't want the wrong men to know that this is a possibility to win her love. Most women usually try to talk the men out of chasing her, but in reality, she really, really wants the RIGHT man to chase her no matter what she puts out there with her words.
Please do not misinterpret what is mentioned above to mean that she desires attention from all guys. She only wants the person she is attracted to to pursue her. DON'T pursue women who aren't attracted to you. She will only consider your pursuit of her to be bothersome, unsettling, and possibly stalkerish. There are ways of knowing if she's attracted to you by learning how to read women's attraction signals.
An intriguing article by relationship therapist Dr. Stephen Snyder discusses a study done on the mating behavior of rats and how they resemble women's behavior. Before darting away, the female rat makes an effort to draw the male rat's attention so that he will pursue her. Before she ultimately lets him have her, he may have to pursue her for a considerable amount of time. The male's pursuit of the "unattainable" reward and the female's perception of "unattainability" are what makes her feel desirable. It's a form of foreplay.
7 Signs She Wants You to Make a Move
1. She Locks Eyes With You
To make the other person feel heard, great communicators always make eye contact with whomever they are speaking to or with. However, the kind of glance that has a flirty vibe that an interested woman gives off is what is referred to in this situation. When you speak to her, she may give you longing glances that nearly feel like she's piercing through your soul, or she may give you shy glances back and forth as you pass.
2. She Initiates Contact With You
She initiates contact by asking him for guidance or his help in doing something to help her when a man does not receive the signal that she is interested in him and wants him to make a move. Anything to entice him to engage her in a conversation, including asking random questions is a big giant sign. She's basically giving you a hint to come and get to know her.
3. She Finds Ways of Touching You
Some people have a tendency to touch when they are speaking with someone. But when a woman who typically wouldn't do those things grabs your arm, for instance, while she's talking to you, she's doing it to indicate to the man she's attracted to that he can do the same to her and start pursuing her.
She Invites You Out
She may invite you to a location where there are other people present or a location where only the two of you will be there. The important thing to remember is that she most likely wants you to chase her if she is paying the majority of her attention to you in an area where there are other people around.
Normally, a woman who is only interested in friendship will give a "not so subtle" hint that she's not interested in you romantically by the following:
Over emphasizing that you are just friends.
Calling you "Friend", "Dude", or "Buddy" instead of your first name.
Introducing you as, "This is my friend..."
Not wanting to be physically close to you in public to make sure others know you are not together so as to not deter other men from pursuing her.
Talking to you about other men that she's interested in.
Looking at you and treating you like a brother.
5. She Shows Signs of Jealousy
Watch her response if you discuss other women with her. She won't be envious if she offers you a high-five and beams with joy, just like a sister would for a brother who finally got a girlfriend. But when she her look abruptly shifts from joy or neutral to "uh-oh", make sure to notice that jealousy just reared its ugly head. Some women are very good at controlling their emotions and pretend they are okay with you mentioning other women. They can even congratulate you in an effort to mask their jealousy. But if she doesn't react to your mention of these other women with the same level of enthusiasm as your sister, grandma, or a really close friend might, that should serve as a red flag that she wants you all to her herself.
6. She's Hot and Cold With You
One moment she's talking to you and giving you the impression that you're having a fantastic time, and then the next time you see her, she gives you the cold shoulder, making you worry if you did something wrong, that's the definition of hot and cold. And yes in her opinion you did something wrong. The wrong would be that you are still unaware that she wants you to pursue her. She is therefore a little annoyed that you haven't made a move yet. She believes that by refusing to respond to her, you will either a) make a move or, b) realize that she needs to let go of you and move on as this indicates lack of interest on your part.
7. She's Flirting With You
There are several ways to detect flirting from women. One of them is the way she looks at you and touches you of which we had already covered. Here are some more flirtatious cues:
She teases you and is being playful with you.
She bites her lips or caresses her lips.
She looks at your lips. A woman will normally not look at a guy's lips she's not interested in.
She compliments you a lot.
She plays or fixes her hair.
She's slow and deliberate in doing things. She may be acting sensually, hoping you will notice, for instance, if she places a straw in her mouth.
She dresses extra sexy than normal around you.
She engages in light-hearted banter.
She engages in light-hearted banter with undertones of sensuality.
She laughs at your jokes even if they're not funny.
These are the most common signs a woman is attracted to you and wants you to chase her. How to talk to these women effectively and get them to want more of you is something I help men with. I work with men to help them interact with women successfully so they can attract the women they want in the most natural instinctive way possible.
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