How do you talk to women and get them to want you?
Easy!
Casual disarming introduction.
Interesting-interested questions.
Charming light-hearted banter.
Hint of mystery.
What? The What?
Exactly. Keep reading because you don't want to miss this. I'm about to break it down simple style.
Before we begin, do bear in mind that ALL WOMEN have walls up. It's for our own protection. It may be absurd to you, but it's part of who we are as women. We do this as naturally as we breathe. If you try to question the ridiculousness of this, you'll just run into a wall--the wall that we've put up.
The man who has the ability to tear down these walls is a genius. This genius is a quality that all men possess. Which is why I'm letting you in on the secret. So you can all be geniuses!
Secret Revealed: Smile and Enjoy Life
Who wants to converse with someone who is incapable of enjoying life? There's nothing alluring that would entice women to want to remain in his presence. He doesn't even want to be with himself! So why should women?
And just so you know, a man who is joyful makes women feel immensely comfortable around him, which is a first step in tearing down a portion of the wall. I don't mean someone who acts artificially happy and overcompensates. Because you can tell someone loves life even in their stillness.
So, get your happy on!
Now on to the juicy tidbits.
1. Casual Disarming Introduction
Nothing works better at disarming women than a simple, casual conversation, and it never fails. It feels sincere, not gimmicky, not cringy, and not like a pick-up line.
A way to do this is to ask questions that you would normally ask a stranger anyway like where a street is, or what food that's good in the area.
What you're actually doing is that you're drawing her sense of compassion to want to assist someone. She won't anticipate you hitting on her if you talk to her casually. Because as soon as she senses that you're hitting on her, she will immediately put her wall up.
This is why you need to initially talk to her as you would any other individual.
2. Interesting-Interested Questions
Studies have shown that a person who asks questions and then asking follow-up questions dramatically increases likeability. The reason is that it shows you are interested and engaged in what the person has to say. The person asking questions is automatically perceived as a good listener.
The key is to ask questions that won't cause people to shut down, take offense, or think you're being overly nosy.
What type of questions would these be?
In the introductory phase, it's always the not-so-deep questions that would get people to let their guard down, including women.
Here's a formula: Question + Follow Up Question + A tidbit of yourself/information you know + Follow Up Question, Etc.
An example of this is if you're at a cafe and you come up to her to ask what food is good at this place. And if she offers a suggestion like the apricot and basil gruyere grilled cheese sandwich (totally have no idea if that goes well or not. Just made it up.).
You say: Okay, you just made me hungry. From the sound of that, it sounds like the best sandwich ever. Is it though? Would you consider that the best sandwich ever?
She says: Actually, this mango chicken tango at this place down the street is crazy good.
You say: Mango chicken tango versus apricot and basil gruyere grilled cheese? I don't know. I feel like more words equals better taste. Like double mozzarella sticky toffee pistachio encrusted sandwich at Joe's Simple Place. Have you had one? Cause it's a mouthful!
And so on and so forth, you can basically go down a rabbit hole just talking about sandwiches alone. The more fun you phrase the questions, the better.
Once you get her to feel at ease with you, then you can ask questions that hopefully isn't just about sandwiches.
3. Charming Light-Hearted Banter
Banter means the playful and friendly exchange of teasing remarks. And nothing captures a woman's attention like charming light-hearted playful banter.
It's actually extremely uncommon for us women to run upon men that are able to do this. (Hint: Do this and stand out from other men). Men are either lacking in this ability or are so self-conscious with women that they become awkward, or too serious, or make jokes that are so terrible or hurtful that they are embarrassing.
When you think of women as "there's someone I have to try to grab her attention and convince her to be attracted to me," you put a lot of pressure on yourself, which makes you feel and appear awkward.
Instead, consider women like this, "there's someone I would have a fantastic conversation with! This is going to be fun!"
You must first mentally prepare yourself before speaking to women or anyone else in general since your body will react to your thoughts. If you think pressure, your body will produce pressure. If you think fun, your body will produce fun.
4. Hint of Mystery
Have you ever observed that most books and movies aren't merely five pages or minutes long? That's because there wouldn't be any suspense if the author gave the entire plot in the first few sentences.
Humans are designed to enjoy the thrill of dramatic climaxes. It's what makes the storytelling industry incredibly powerful and profitable. It keeps people interested and eager to find out what occurs next.
For women, the same is true. Avoid spilling your entire life story in the introductory phase. In the beginning provide little portions here and there. Because when you're a little mysterious, you leave her wanting more.
You might expect the opposite to happen--that she wouldn't feel as connected to you because you haven't shared your autobiography. But in reality, she'll feel more connected to you because you've developed the rare skill of being an engaged great listener.
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