I'll be giving you 10 telltale signs to know whether you should make a move or not which will help eliminate time wasters and minimize or eliminate rejection.
The general consensus in the animal realm is that males usually initiate contact, and females either accept or reject the advances. The man, however, is either branded a creep for an unwanted pursuit or weak for failing to read the signals appropriately.
What's a guy to do?
I understand how challenging it is to be a man who must put in the effort in order to attract women. But take note, that when a woman falls in love, is when she is comfortable enough to do a little pursuit of the man she wants.
But in the first stages, it feels out of character for us to chase men. Nature bites us in the butt when we go against it. And even men have confided in me that while women pursuing them or wooing them initially feels great, nature eventually takes control and the men cease to value the women since they were never given the opportunity to do what nature meant for men to do--be the hunters.
Men and women must follow the natural order of things in order to have a longer-lasting attraction since we all naturally follow it, even if we are unconscious of it.
Why do you suppose individuals like myself who study human behavior can offer advice? Because, despite the fact that we are sometimes oblivious of it, we follow a pattern. It's similar to having a hard-to-get-rid-of program built into our DNA. When you oppose that program, you'll observe two things: It either 1) doesn't work or 2) eventually stops working.
If you don't know what you're up against, you're fighting a losing battle.
In order to attract the women you want, I want to arm you gentleman with the necessary knowledge. But before doing so, it is crucial to understand how to interpret women's cues, gestures, and actions.
This not only equips you with the valuable knowledge and abilities to read women, but also helps you avoid time wasters and encounters with rejection.
How to read the subtle and not so subtle cues is demonstrated in the video above, How to Know She is Attracted to You.
This article serves as a tutorial for guys who would like to read the signals that indicate whether or not a woman is attracted to them before approaching them. This is part one. Stay tuned for the next article on learning women's signals when you're already talking to them or know them.
It doesn't take a body language expert to read women's behavior but it does help greatly. It also helps even more if the body language expert happens to be a woman who has done the same behaviors herself and has observed her fellow females doing the same thing without fail.
In her observations of more than 200 single women in gatherings, bars, clubs, and restaurants, psychologist Monica Moore found that of the 52 signals these are the most frequently used by women to give off that she is interested in a man in having him approach her.
Important First Step
Look at her, do a little nod, and smile at her as if to say "hello" with a gesture. It is important that your eyes are also smiling. Don't smile at her if she can't even see you. So it's important to find a way to get her to notice you're there. If you need to move a bit so you are in her line of sight, do so.
Important Second Step
Reconnaissance or the art of gathering intel is vitally important in order to know whether you approach the woman or not. This is where reading women's body and facial cues come in handy.
After you've smiled at her there are three reactions that you'll get: 1) Negative 2) Positive and, 3) Neutral.
To clear the way for the discussion of the signs of attraction, we must first identify the negative, also known as, "Don't Even Come Into my Space" signs.
Do Not Engage if She Shows These Signs
She's frowning and casts a scornful, irritated glance your way.
She gives you an expression that says, "Stop looking at me!"
She's looking down on you as if you have no right to approach her or even look at her.
She's mockingly laughing at you.
She smiles nicely at you, but you can see from the expression on her face that she wants you to understand that she is simply being courteous and does not want you to approach.
She rolls her eyes and looks bored.
She looks elsewhere except at you in the hopes that you'll leave.
She isn't really present, as evidenced by her vacant gaze.
The aforementioned factors prevent you from wasting time and effort on women you shouldn't approach. Some women might simply be having a bad day from time to time, but even bad days can ruin a terrific experience. For the time being, it is better to leave them alone.
Studies have shown that it takes only a few milliseconds to decide whom you find attractive.
Now the positive. Attraction happens quite quickly. The brain can determine in a matter of milliseconds if a person is attracted to a new face they view. And the medial prefrontal cortex, a part of the brain that has been linked to amorous decision-making, is responsible for it all.
10 Tell-Tale Signs She is Attracted to You
1. Smiling at You
There are some women who are cheerful and smile frequently, but if her smiles are coupled by any form of flirtatious smiles, this suggests she is drawn to you.
2. Shooting Short Glances Your Way
One glance at you is insufficient. However, if she glances at you, then looks away, then looks back at you, then does the same thing again, that suggests someone who finds you attractive but is a little shy to prolong her stares.
3. Daring Her Eyes Away When You Look at Her
Anyone who can keep their eyes fixed on someone must have some serious courage. But if she turns her head away when you catch her glancing at you, it's because she was embarrassed to be seen ogling.
4. Making Prolonged Eye Contact With You
The only kind of girl that has the guts to do this is the one who fits this description--that she's interested in you. She won't fixate on somebody who doesn't interest her. She is essentially telling you to come over and talk to her, in case you haven't gotten the gist yet.
5. Running Fingers Through Her Hair
Preening is the act of grooming oneself to look better and attract attention. A woman is attempting to catch your eye when she fixes her hair, twirls, flips, or runs her fingers through hair. Check to see whether she's preening for you and not someone else. She'll keep glancing at the person whose attention she's trying to catch. You are unquestionably the guy she's trying to attract if there is no one else in the room.
6. Does Something With Her Lips
Sensuality is represented by the lips. Therefore, a woman is undoubtedly attempting to draw you in if she licks her lips (not because they are dry and need moisturizing), bites her lips, touches her lips, or slowly places food, drink, or straw in her mouth.
7. Exposing Her Neck
In addition to drawing attention in that direction, exposing the neck serves as a nonverbal cue to subconsciously release hormones.
8. Tilting Her Head
A woman is genuinely interested in you and what you have to say when she tilts or cants her head. She's also attempting to come across as more feminine in order to catch your eye.
9. Turning in Her Seat Towards You
She might be standing or seated, but if her body is pointing away from you, her body language suggests that she wants you to leave. She will undoubtedly want to stay and talk to you if her body is turned toward you.
10. Caressing With Her Hands
She is so attracted to you if her hands are softly caressing anything they can get their hands on. She could be holding a cactus or a hedgehog, if she's caressing those things slowly in front of you, that's a big huge sign! That or the nerves in her hands are totally damaged and she can't feel pain whatsoever.
Last but not least is the third reaction, and that's the neutral one.
Normally when you see a reaction from a woman that looks neutral or quizzical, it's because she didn't have the time to process what just happened. Sometimes when men smile at us, we wonder if he's smiling at someone he knows who happens to be behind us. So she gives this, "is he smiling at me?" look.
And quite often we also fail to notice men's signals.
So when faced with a neutral expression, try again by smiling and nodding. Wait to see what she does next. Don't approach if unfavorable. Approach if it's a positive response.
These are the most common signs a woman is attracted to you. How to approach these women effectively and get them to want more of you is something I help men with. I work with men to help them interact with women successfully so they can attract the women they want in the most natural instinctive way possible.
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